Reason #289: Playing the Blame Game
Do you ever get the feeling that life is about “paying back” for all the bad stuff you did before? Sometimes I get a suspicious feeling that that just could be the case. This usually comes on when things aren’t going exactly the way I had hoped. A hangover usually accompanies this dreadful feeling that life is just out to get me, or hold me down. Ever had that feeling? What is really going on here? We all enjoy wearing, from time to time, the status of victim, now don’t we? It feels comfortable because when wearing it, we don’t have to feel responsible. Our life situation is not our fault, it is “their” fault, it is God’s fault, or it is just life’s fault. Someone or something should come to my aid immediately because I am being unjustly and unfairly singled out for failure. But you and I know the truth, now don’t we? And that is, that it is ALL my fault and no one is coming to rescue me. And the quickest way out of the mess I find myself in is to realize and recognize that salient fact. Only then can I begin to pull myself up and out by my own bootstraps. Millions of others have done it and I can too. But not while masquerading around under the disillusion of victim-hood. Why am I writing about this topic this particular morning? Well usually when I write I am considering my own situation and truth is, all too often I have worn that mask of disillusion and I can tell you from experience it won’t get you where you want to go. The mask has no eyes and that makes it very hard to see, or visualize, your destination. The remedy? Take off the mask and take a good hard look in the mirror, because there staring at you is both the source and salvation of your misery. Just remember, no one ever wins in the “blame game.”
Tags: taking responsibility, victimhood